Chapter Eleven "Eating, For Business and Pleasure"

I thought at first that this chapter seemed to be a little strange for this book but I learned a few pointers from the author about how to entertain clients or future bosses. The author says that business meals are often about building relationships and finding common interests and grounds for discussion. She also explains why she put this chapter in the book. And that is because men have not included this topic in business books before and it is apart of business life. “Eating for business” is common at every level of corporate life. There are important lessons to learn that will make you a more effective businessperson. One rule would be whether dining out or eating in there a seasoned practice that simplify your life. They begin with the acceptance that eating well is worth it. Another phrase that she uses is, “entertaining is an act of friendship and cooking is an act of love.”

Rules of being entertaining in restaurants:

If you are the hostess you should try and be there first and go directly to the table.

Now you should use the free time while you wait to glance at the menu and the wine list so you have an idea of what you might order and free up your mind for your guests.

People look for the hostess to seat them. Generally if the dinner is formal the “most important” person sits on the right of the host.

If you are the host, you ultimately pick the restaurant and should try to accommodate your choice to your guests.

You should pick a restaurant that you are familiar with. Do not go to a place where you have not eaten before. This could be a disaster. Pick a place for you know you can rely on for good service and atmosphere. You do not want to upset you guest.

As the hostess you will be paying the bill. You have the responsibility to signal what is appropriate to order to put your guests at ease. You should get up late in the meal to settle the bill, and then return to the table so that you are not signing the credit card in front of the guest.

Rules of entertaining at home:

When entertaining business associates, it is not the same thing as entertaining close friends, but the responsibilities for the host are similar.

You should be yourself and smile. Show your guests that you are having fun and be gracious, making your guests feel welcomed.

Do not try and overdo it or you will be set up for a failure.

Planning is the key, lists help. Avoid catering. Personalize it by trying to make at least two-thirds of the meal yourself.

Make an effort to change the subject away from business matters. Ask about vacation plans or hobbies.